How to learn to say no and make people respect my time

Sep 26, 2008 Author: dcfemella | Filed under: progress, self reflection

“Liberating!”

How I did it: I just forced myself to stop feeling guilty, and when I didn’t want to do something, I would say “No.” Even when people would start whining, I would just leave the situation, so I wouldn’t have to deal with their tantrums.

I have finally learn the power of saying “No” when I don’t want to do something, don’t want to see someone, or just don’t want to be bothered. I think I have increased the amounts of times that I have said no to people over 150%. Guess what?! I feel so, so much better. Finally, I am able to sleep at night, and I don’t feel bad about it.

Just had to end with “NO!”

Lessons & tips: Listen to yourself and what you want to do. Sometimes being selfish is not a bad thing.

Resources: “The Solo Partner” Great book

It took me 60 days.

It made me HAPPY

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A Routine is Vital for Everyone, Especially a Single Mother

Sep 19, 2008 Author: dcfemella | Filed under: children, family, progress

The kids and I have been adjusting to our new routine more and more each day. I have been taking them to all of their practices, and I am FINALLY sleeping at a decent time. Not going to lie, yesterday, I let them stay up a little bit. Isabelle and I passed out at 8:45 p.m. cause we were exhausted. I think it was all of the mosquitoes that were kicking our butts when we were watching Cebastian run. We met this nice lady, and we hung out with her the entire time joking around.

Kids need routine, and I think adults do as well. I am glad that I am finally in a routine that I can live with. This weekend is going to be exciting because Cebastian has his first meet, and Isabelle is getting her soccer pictures taken. I plan on going to yoga and body pump in the morning, and then heading to watch her at her game. I will be going incognito because she doesn’t play because she is attached to my hip. I plan to watch Cebastian on Sunday, and I think I might do the 5K charity race for the FPYC. I need the exercise, and I am always up for helping with a good cause.

When this routine is going for a few weeks, I’m going to add a dog to our small family.