Something that Stephen Covey and Dave Ramsey have said in one time or the other is that America is the country of blame. We are constantly blaming others for the misery that we are enduring, or the mistakes that we have made. I have been realizing more and more that they are right. We never can admit our part in the matter; we have to blame whoever is closest to us. I have heard three people in one day play the victim role.

I was watching the Olympics when a swimmer came on. He blamed his shoddy performance on the fact that everyone is focusing on other swimmers instead of him. Pathetic if you ask me.

My ex blamed his reason for being absent in the kids’ lives because we do not have a good relationship.

This morning my best friend Laura was getting ready for work, and she was using my iron. It was not heating up, and it was because she had not turned the knob to choose the fabric. She automatically started blaming me for turning the knob to “Off.” She continued to say that she has not been able to exercise. It sounded familiar because I use to say that.

For the longest time, I blamed everyone for my problems. I loved playing the victim. It never did anything for me except make me miserable and sad. I have learned two things this year:

1. You are responsible for your happiness
2. People do not change over night, so do not expect them to, and just worry about your actions.

I hope others can learn that because I think it will make them happier. The victim role gets old after awhile.