Posts tagged ‘personals’

Who Should Pay on Dates? Woman or Man?

14 March, 2009 | dcfemella | Comments

I am extremely old fashioned.  It’s the way I have always been, and I think it has to do with my parents raising us to think that men should open doors, let us get out of an elevator first, and pay on outings. 

The question is when should a woman finally pay for a date? 

My thoughts are that a woman should never pay for a date until she is in a committed relationship with a guy.  If she starts going dutch on every outing, will this make the guy not dote on her like he would a woman who doesn’t do this? 

But what if you know that the guy currently doesn’t have the tons of spending money because he has it tied in business endeavors? Should you pay for the occasional date?  For that manner, should I just be dating a woman? 

I have no idea what the right answer is.  Date two, three, four, five, and six…

As the self-proclaimed Research Queen, I began research on what “dating experts” have said should be the answer to this question.  It seems like they say that the first date should be on the guy.  However, after that, a woman should only pay if she initiates the date.  If the guy is struggling with money, then offer to go on cheap dates or cook for him.

Maybe I am too old fashioned.  Maybe I am used to guys who always pick up the tabs.  What if the right guy comes along?  Should I allow this to let me ruin the chance to be with a quality guy who is emotionally available and loves to be around me?  No, I think that it’s time I start changing my viewpoint and pick up the tab once in awhile.  Who knows!  He might be worth it.


 

 

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Islanders who insisted on staying died in Ike

4 October, 2008 | dcfemella | Comments

The media hasn’t even discussed this until now. 300 missing from Ike? I am totally shocked. It’s sad that a four-year old perished due to his/her parents irresponsible decision.

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The Mating Game

10 September, 2008 | dcfemella | Comments

I have started the dreaded task of dating.  Dating is something that I am not super fond of.  I haven’t been in a serious relationship with a man since 2005, so I am not sure how I will do in one now.  Nevertheless, I do want to get married and have two more children one day, so I guess it’s time that I venture out there.  The kids are ready for me to find someone as well because they keep talking about having a new baby sister or brother one day. 

I decided to try Yahoo! Personals after failing miserably with Match.  Match seems to be more for people that do not have children and don’t want to date anyone who has any.  I am not angry because everyone has their preference, and I want to find someone who is comfortable being around children.  One of my best friends found her fiancé on Yahoo!, so I took her advice and decided to give it a chance.  Yahoo! seems a better fit.  Thanks Dawne!

Right now there are three guys: a Scientist, a Lawyer, and a TV Producer. 

Scientist – He is the only one that I have met so far.  He is in his early 30’s, used to be a teacher and coach, adores his dog, and is very intelligent.  I think he is great (so far).  We’ll see what happens on the second date.  We are supposed to go to a Greek restaurant, so I am pretty excited.

Lawyer – Meeting him for lunch tomorrow.  He seems really sweet, good looking, own practice, smart, and funny.  However, he is ready to get married and have children, and I worry that he will just commit to anyone.  Another thing is that he is only 5’9.  Being a taller than average women who loves her heels, I wonder if he will be too short for me.

TV Producer – We talk all the time, and he is the one that I like most of all.  Cute, funny, English major, laid back, and cool.  He is all a Producer for Animal Planet and Discovery Channel, which are two of my children and I favorite channels.  However, he lives in MD (I hate MD!), and he is legally separated.  I usually would run the other way, but he said that in MD they can’t get divorced until they have been legally separated for a year.  It’s something I know from my older sister.  However, not even a year separated and already on the playing field?

I hate dating.  If someone knows how to work a crystal ball, please let me know.

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