Posts tagged ‘freelance’

Almost Ending Up Hurt Made Me Realize What I Need to Do With My Life

22 October, 2009 | dcfemella | Comments

After this clip was taken, I almost fell off my bike in a really bad way. The bike actually did a wheelie (Is that the correct term?), and I was headed towards a really rough, rocky landing. When this happened, I realized that this is exactly what is happening within me. I’m losing myself because I am not following my dreams. Money isn’t everything, and I need to realize that. I saw this article that stated the freelancers could live off of $10/hr. I almost fainted. $10/hr?!  I posted it on FriendFeed, and I realized that I could possibly live off of that (well..maybe a little more).

This was the second sign that I’ve had in the past few days.  After the Maryland 5K Breast Cancer Run, my sister asked if I wanted to go to church with her.  I decided to accompany her because I haven’t really spent much time with her.   I’m glad that I went.  The preacher discussed how people’s lives sometimes are in a standstill because they allow things to suppress them.  You have to rise above those obstacles and claim what is yours.  You can’t put your dreams on hold for anything, even if it causes you to struggle a little bit. 

Almost ended up in the hospital, but I was able to overcome that obstacle and survive.  It’s time I did that with my life.


When Are You Too Busy?

1 September, 2009 | dcfemella | Comments

When are you taking on too much?  I keep asking myself this question.

I have always been a busy person, and have progressively become busier the older the children get, the more experienced I get in my field, relaunching my freelance writing career, and the further away I live from my family. The only way that I am able to keep on top of things is being organized and learning time management.

However, I sometimes wonder if I am taking on too much.  I don’t have anyone to really fall back on, and I am starting to see the effects of that now.  My ex is becoming increasingly absent from the children’s lives.  He has probably seen them a total of four times this summer.  This has made the time that I would do things for myself less and less.

I am hoping to get a new job, but it seems like companies are still shying away from telecommuting, so I am having to weigh all the options before I make any decisions.  My children and me are more important, so I don’t want to be career obsessed like the majority of the people in this area.  It’s like my best friend B.once said.  People in DC seem to only work and work and work.  It isn’t like other areas where people work hard, but play harder.  Additionally, I want to be able to freelance one day, so I don’t want to be in a position where I have to constantly work and forget my dream of working for myself one day.

All I know is that my children’s happiness and health are the most important factor in any decision I make, so I need to always focus on that.

Photo Details: … And She’s Just My Type, originally uploaded by Ken Keirns / k2.


Flying High on the Way to Tampa

26 August, 2009 | dcfemella | Comments

I was on the plan to Tampa between an antisocial guy and a man who kept drinking rum and diet Coke. It was a trip that I didn’t want to go on because I hate leaving the kids for longer than two days, but now I am kind of glad that I am here. Side rant: I’m a little disappointed that US Airways doesn’t have Wifi on their flights, but I heard in 2010 that they will. In a way, it doesn’t matter because the bulky work PC laptop that I have to drag around would have just been a pain (it’s currently in the bin above me). Knowing me, I would have probably smacked one of the guys next to me on the head and then had him give me dirty looks the entire 2.5 hours. When I’m not working, I wonder what I will be doing to pass the time. The hotel shuttle driver said that he would take me to the malls and restaurants if he doesn’t have to pick up/drop off people at the airport. I know that I am going to do some shopping while I am here. When I’m on the plane, I always reflect about my life. Life looks good. I remember this time last year, I was hating life. Now, I can’t complain. Yes, the love department could be better, but I’m working on that. A month ago, I joined eHarmony. I tried it once before with horrible luck. I do know why. The negative energy surrounding me oozed into my words. Reading what I wrote, I wouldn’t date me. I updated it, and now I am getting tons of guys wanting to communicate.  Another reason why I wasn’t meeting anyone. Another department that I need to work on is career.  I really want to freelance full-time, but with my company keeping me, I decided maybe things happened for a reason.  I am still looking for another position.  Yesterday, I made my resume public.  I already had four c0mpanies contact me for different positions, so I think by the end of this month, I will have a better job.  At the same time, I am writing my book, blogging, and networking.  I am getting more exposure, so I can’t complain. By 2010, I envision all my efforts this year would have paid off. Photo Details: Downtown Tampa, originally uploaded by doxadigital.

Telecommuting Should Be An Option for Everyone

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working from home, originally uploaded by TC..

Last year, I was listening to a special NPR podcast, “For Prospective Moms, Biology and Culture Clash,” where they were discussing how women are having babies at an older age.  They indicated that one of the reasons that this is happening is that more women are putting having a child on hold to go to school and/or have a successful career.  However, the age when women are having children is starting to decrease due to technology and telecommuting.  Technology is making it possible for women to have “it all” because more and more women are telecommuting or starting their own businesses.

“We’re seeing more and more women working at home with the computer. We’re seeing the rise of women in small businesses where they can control their time,” Fisher says. “I think even the established business community is beginning to realize men and women were built to work together, so women can have their children when they’re young and also sustain their career.”

When I learned that I was pregnant with Cebastian, I knew that I needed to find a career that would allow enough flexibility to be there for him (and Isabelle when she arrived) whenever I could.  For awhile, I had a job where they were a stickler for the 9-5 schedule and would make you work overtime.  I had to always stress as to which family member could watch him.  After leaving that job, I vowed never again.  My kids were more important.

My childhood was another reason.  When I was a child, my mother was going to school and working, so we barely saw her.  I remember how much I envied my friends, whose mothers could attend plays, field trips, and other activities, because my mother couldn’t.  Don’t get me wrong.  I don’t have any resentment because during my mother’s era, there wasn’t an option to telecommute.

It is something that is also important to me because I am a single mother and don’t have anyone who helps me with the kids.  My ex is practically absentee, and my mother has never been the type to watch my children (unless I beg).Since 2004, I’ve had flexibility and the option to work from home.  It’s one of the things that a job needs to have before I accept it .

Yesterday I went on an interview.  One of the first questions I always ask is “Does your company have a healthy work/life balance?”

The manager said that they put in eight hours a day, and then head home.  However, there are occasions where they would have to work overtime.  I followed up.

“During those times, do you give the option to telecommute?”

She shook her head.

“Unfortunately no.  We do not allow telecommuting.”

I should have stopped the interview right there because I knew that it wouldn’t work.  She said the Department of State (DoS), who they support, didn’t allow them to have that option.  I wanted to interrupt her and tell her that I worked with the guys who ran the networks for DoS, and that I used to work from home all the time.

In this time and age, when everyone is heading to cloud computing, portability, and virtual offices, how can a company not offer telecommuting?  I asked this question on FriendFeed and got some interesting commentsRochelle brought up a good point.  Not all professions, like health professionals, can have this option.  This is true, but for the majority of the professions, there isn’t much of a reason to go into the office, unless it’s to go to a meeting (even that is debatable) or talk to a client.

Companies need to keep up with the advancements in technology, and realize that there are tons of pros for allowing their employees to work from home .  They need to realize that they can save money if they allow their employees to work from home. Additionally, they would have happier employees if they allowed this.

For me, I am diligently trying to re-launch my freelance writing business, so I don’t have to deal with this dilemma again.

Finding Freedom William-Wallace Style

I’m getting sick of my job. It’s flexible, and I don’t get micromanaged. However, I still feel that I am wasting my time and myself here. Egos run rampant, workaholics reign supreme, and there are kiss-ass whores who get favored (I wonder why). I hope that my business is successful, so I can say peace out to this job. I can’t imagine continuing to bust my ass for someone else to have deep pockets.

In my five-year plan (yes, I actually have one, and so should you), I estimate two years before I am free of ever working for anyone again. I have the stamina, heart, and drive to make my dreams a reality. My only issue is how introverted I have become. I need to join the land of the living because lately I have been a total hermit.

Any tips are more than welcome!