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A sisterly bond is something that can never be broken, regardless of the tests and obstacles that come their way.

My sister arrives from Afghanistan today, and I am so excited. I haven’t seen her since we went to Panama in April. It’s only going to be for one day, so I am going to try and make the best of it. Ever since we were kids, we have been inseparable. When I got chicken pox, she begged my dad if she could take a bath with me. My dad threw her in there, and we were both chicken-pox infested together.

When I got old enough to date, I always brought her with me on my dates. I always wondered why the guys were bothered by this. When I had Cebastian, she was the one who went with my to my OB/GYN appointments, birthing classes, and was there with me every step during labor. She even took care of Cebastian for eight months. We think the same, even though we have drastically different personalities.

I know that if something were to ever happen to me, I would want her to raise the kids. She would raise them the way I want, and I wouldn’t have to worry. There isn’t anything that I would do for her. It was funny when I saw “Practical Magic” because they seemed so much like us. I remember when we were young, we would lie down on the grass looking at the clouds. We always said that we would grow old and die together. I still hope that is true.

When I went to my friend’s mother’s funeral, he said something that reminded me of my sister. He said that people always think about a romantic relationship when they think about soulmates. However, his mother was his. I feel like my sister is mine. She knows me and has been with me every step of the way.

I took the day off to spend with her. Even though I got a nasty email discussing this one day I took off to be with her, I don’t care. My family comes first, and I am not going to apologize for that. I get to be with my sister, even if it’s just for one day.

Is Being Idealistic a Bad Thing?

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When it comes to love, some people are idealistic, and others are realistic. I remember a conversation I had with my ex two years ago.

“You are too idealistic,” he said to me.

“You say it like it’s a bad thing.”

“It’s going to break you one day.”

“What?”

“You need to realize that you have to think realistically about relationships and realize that you are going to have to eventually settle. You can’t live life in this rosy-glass way that you seem to live.”

For the first time, I was speechless. Why couldn’t I be idealistic about love? I’m very similar to Marianne from “Sense and Sensibility” and Clementine from “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.” Side note: Funny that Kate Winslet played them both. They are my favorite characters and it was due to this passion and innocence that they had. It’s one of the reasons people love me, including him, so why is it a bad thing?

In Sense and Sensibility,” Colonel Brandon says it perfectly, “I knew a lady very like your sister – the same impulsive sweetness of temper – who was forced into, as you put it, a better acquaintance with the world. The result was only ruination and despair. Do not desire it, Miss Dashwood.”

I dealt with that ruination and despair last year, and I picked up the pieces and are happier than ever. I decided to go the realistic route, but all it did was cause me to become mean and bitter. In the end, I decided that isn’t for me. I love that I still have this innocent view about the world, and I don’t care if I remain alone due to that. I’m not going to change myself.

20 Things to Avoid This Halloween

Have a spooky and safe Halloween, everyone! If you are a horror movie lover like I am, you know the things that you should avoid. If you aren’t, here are the 20 things to avoid this Halloween. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!

1.If someone dares you to go into an abandoned house or anything similar, say no
2.If you see a crazy-looking clown offering you balloons, run the other way
3.Avoid meat hooks
4.Don’t go to anyone’s house looking for drugs. You might get your intenstines spilled out
5.Don’t stand in front of a mirror and chant anything resembling “Bloody Mary” or “Candyman”
6.Avoid any misty areas
7.If you see someone coming near you with blood coming out of their mouth, clock him/ her. It’s the only way to be safe
8.If your friend complains that his/her stomach is killing him/her, it probably will
9.Little balls that fly around are death, so run
10.Pandora’s box are to be left alone. Curiousity can be hell
11.If you see someone typing, “All work and no play makes [insert person's name] a dull boy,” back up slowly
12.Don’t throw people down wells
13.Cornstalks + children != good times
14.Do not fall in a bunch of wire coils
15.If a crazy-looking doctor starts saying that your brother is after you, then it’s time to move that night
16.Run if you see anything fall from the sky. You could gain 1500 pounds and burst into little suckers
17.If you come up to someone, and he/she screams like a vigilante, it might not be that person anymore
18.Avoid drowned, little boys and their moms
19.If a girl starts spinning her head around and vomiting all over you, don’t ask questions and leave
20.Above all else, DO NOT FALL ASLEEP

Photo Detail: BEEP! BEEP! RICHIE, originally uploaded by WithoutLightIAm.

Halloween Through the Years

Halloween is one of our favorite times of the year. It has two of my favorite passtimes: dressing up and candy. My mother has always been obsessed with it, and passed this obsession to my sisters and me. It’s something that I have also passed on to my own kids. My birthday is pretty close to Halloween, so that also helped as well. One of my first birthday parties was a costume party in Panama. This is when Halloween was non-existent there. My parents, who had been in the USA, brought it back with them. The whole neighborhood went to my party. Even now, when we meet someone from the old neighborhood, they still talk about how great the first costume party was that they ever attended.

Luckily, when we came the U.S., we were living in Ft. Belvoir, so it was safe enough for children to go out on their own and everyone celebrated Hallowen. We had a great time hitting all the houses, and actually had to return home to get a new bag cause the first one would fill up quickly.

In my teenage years, I went through the whole “I’m too old to trick-or-treat” phase, but that didn’t last long when I turned 17. I discovered wearing a costume and heading down to Georgetown. You would see all kinds of wonderful costumes, and my younger sister K. and I rediscovered our love for Halloween.

After that, we couldn’t be stopped. We loved it! Here are some of the costumes I’ve worn in the past:

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Cebastian, at first, hated costumes. He would take them off in a second. It wasn’t until he was three that he realized what happens when you wear a costume. I had to put on his Spiderman pajamas because he refused to wear one. When we were trick-or-treating, he realized that iI get candy? After that, there were no issues. This year he wants to be a werewolf, so I am glad that we can finally stop being a ninja or Jedi. ry=400-2

On the other hand, Isabelle never gave me any issues. She gladly put her costume on. The only thing is that I can’t leave her side. She is afraid of any little thing, so if I leave her to go to a door alone (this really means with her brother and cousin), she will scream like someone is attacking her. Even now, if we go to the Halloween store, she will not enter unless I am holding her hand. I was shocked that she wanted to be a vampiress this year. She is definitely taking after her mother.

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This year, I have been so busy that I haven’t been able to fully be as excited for Halloween as I usually am because of the workload I’ve been having. However, now that this project is finally over, I am going to get ready for the festivities. I still haven’t gotten my costume, so I need to get going on that. At this point, I’ll choose anything that looks good and not every single woman will have. Even if I don’t, as long as the kids have a good Halloween, I’ll be happy.

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