Bipolar Friend Request Behavior

Posted by dcfemella | Posted in rant | Posted on 16-11-2009

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People baffle me. There are times that I wonder if I have been propelled into a different dimension, or dreamt how things played out. It’s more apparent when you add social networking sites to the mix.

A person and you become friends, and everything is fine. All of a sudden, he/she will remove you from his/her friends list, and you are confused by that action, but then you decide that there is no point of getting upset over it. Few months will pass, and you get a friend request from that person trying to re-add you. When that usually happens, I add the person, and just leave it at that. However, this time, I decided to just play ask about what in the world that was about. Still no response.

When someone removes you without an explanation, I feel like it’s a passive-aggressive type of action that allows that person to say, “I really don’t want to deal with you” in a indirect way. Or they are too afraid to face this person, so they’d rather do it this way, so they don’t have to deal with the awkward conversation that usually happens.

If you don’t want to be friends with someone, just say it!

“I’m not feeling you.”

“I just don’t feel we click anymore.”

“You did X and X, so I don’t want to be friends with you anymore.”

The person at the receiving end might be a little annoyed or upset, but he/she will probably have more respect you than anything else.

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