Stop Introducing Every Person You Meet to My Children!
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When do you introduce your significant other to your child(ren)? I have only had two people meet my children: First, was someone I knew for over a year, and we dated for nine months or so; and second was someone I dated for three years, and the kids still know. I have a huge issue with my ex. Every time he meets someone, he has them around my children. He is now on the tenth one.
This morning while I was getting the kids and I ready for school/work, my daughter says, “Hope is really nice.”
“Who’s that?”
“She is daddy’s new friend.”
I was ready to scream. This guy doesn’t know when to quit. He only has the kids four days out of the month, and he doesn’t even bother to see them more than that. You would think that he could just tell her that he will see her the 26 days out of the month when he pretends he is a 22-year old man. No, seems he can’t.
I wrote him right when I got into work:
“Just heard from the kids today that you have another girl around them. I am sick of it. This is the 10th girl, and it needs to stop. Unless you are going to marry this girl, and you have been dating her for over six months, I don’t want her around my children. I don’t want Cebastian to turn out like you, and I don’t want Isabelle thinking it’s ok for men to do that”
He ignored my IM because he is going to continue to do it.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel that this will cause some issues with the children later when it comes to their future relationships because of this man not being able to think with the right head. How do I make him realize that having every random girl you date around your children isn’t healthy for them?
I usually wait six months before introducing someone to my children, and now that I am thinking marriage, I won’t unless we have discussed being together for the rest of your lives. I hope that one day my ex realizes that this is the best policy.
