Who Should Pay on Dates? Woman or Man?

I am extremely old fashioned. It’s the way I have always been, and I think it has to do with my parents raising us to think that men should open doors, let us get out of an elevator first, and pay on outings.

The question is when should a woman finally pay for a date?

My thoughts are that a woman should never pay for a date until she is in a committed relationship with a guy. If she starts going dutch on every outing, will this make the guy not dote on her like he would a woman who doesn’t do this?

But what if you know that the guy currently doesn’t have the tons of spending money because he has it tied in business endeavors? Should you pay for the occasional date? For that manner, should I just be dating a woman?

I have no idea what the right answer is. Date two, three, four, five, and six…

As the self-proclaimed Research Queen, I began research on what “dating experts” have said should be the answer to this question. It seems like they say that the first date should be on the guy. However, after that, a woman should only pay if she initiates the date. If the guy is struggling with money, then offer to go on cheap dates or cook for him.

Maybe I am too old fashioned. Maybe I am used to guys who always pick up the tabs. What if the right guy comes along? Should I allow this to let me ruin the chance to be with a quality guy who is emotionally available and loves to be around me? No, I think that it’s time I start changing my viewpoint and pick up the tab once in awhile. Who knows! He might be worth it.

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.LAG

The answer is: it depends! .LAG

dcfemella

What are the the factors that it's dependent on?

.LAG

Ooops...I meant to reply on Friendfeed, but since I started over here I'll reply quickly: it depends on where you are in the dating process (first few dates, probably the guy), on who asked who out, and on how much you're really into the other person. I'll jump in over on FF.

ahr19

If a girl doesn't offer to pay by the third date and doesn't pay by the 5th or 6th one than we will have a problem. And if she invites me out then she should be prepared to pay although I will almost always offer. My disclaimer is that I am still single so perhaps my thoughts are wrong. But I have been involved with some "gold-diggers" which have tainted my view.

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Little thoughts of appreciation like “thank you” show thoughtfulness. Making it on time to a first date show you respect the other person’s time.
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malexis

If its all about who pays...whats the point !! A date is suppose to be fun !! Im a woman and I think if a girl ask a dude out , then she should pay...If you have been knowing a man for a fair amount of time its also cool for a girl to pay. I dont think a man should JUST have to pay for a date.Some women are rediclous! As long as a woman knows her limits whats wrong with paying for something...Its 2010 chics

DCFemella

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